|So you’re getting married …
Many people spend more time planning the wedding day than preparing for the marriage lifetime.
Marriage preparation is insisted on by most churches. Our Pastor requires couples to spend a minimum of 8 to 12 hours in marriage preparation before he will marry them. If a person will not put time into building a marriage before they are married, they are not likely to seek help afterward, even if they need it.
Consider doing the “Prepare” inventory
Pre marriage Thinklist (this is not a substitute for “Marriage Preparation”)
What do you like about your fiance? Are there things you dislike?
List 6 to 8 things you share – values, interests …
In what ways are you different?
(Consider doing a professional personality profile. It will point out differences you need to be aware of)
Do you share the same spiritual values / beliefs / interests?
Family of origin
Madam, How does your fiance treat his mother?
Sir, How does your fiance treat her father?
How did your and your spouse to be’s parents handle:
What features of your parents’ marriage do you want to be part of yours?
In what ways do you want your marriage to be different from that of your parents?
What expectations will your families have on you
What expectations do you have on them in these areas
Construct a realistic budget showing all income and expenditure. Don’t forget annual expenses like insurance, registration?
How will this be affected if one of you has to stop working?
How many children have you agreed you would like to have?